Best Age To Get Married
71My personal belief on the best age to get married is lower 30s. Why do I think this? I believe that it takes time for a person to figure out what they want in life after they get into adulthood. That includes education, established career, small nest egg, and seeing the world. I firmly believe that it is important to experience those things in your life while you are single so that you don't have regrets later on in life when it is too late.
I am pro-marriage and am married myself but I got married in my 30s as did my husband and I felt it was the best age. There is nothing worse than feeling regret that you didn't pursue a dream. Ditto for having kids. When you have kids it is difficult to just pick up and go somewhere or do something or take long periods of time for yourself.
This doesn't mean you should give up your significant other but it does mean that you need to think long and hard about what you want to accomplish in life and how important those things are to you. When you get married it will change the family dynamic and you don't want to live with any regrets that could lead to divorce. Get out and explore the world and yourself.
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I've alway heard your thirties are the best age as well... that way you have plenty of time to establish yourself in your career or schooling and you can have a better idea of what you want in life.
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right now i am 27 year old do you think its a perfect age to get marry as i have got job [full time] and totally depend on me....
I think it depends on the person. I'm 27, but I am not exactly ready to run to the altar yet. I want to travel, get my career established and explore more. I think early thirties is perfect time for most people. Everyone should wait until they are "ready" do not go with what the norm is at the moment.
I most definitely agree with waiting until both partners have a stable job, are completely independent, and have experienced the world. But, how about kids? Getting married after 30 would mean having kids mid to late thirties (unless you get pregnant right away) and this is not always safe for all women (even though some women in their 30's and 40's have healthy children). Just something to consider.
Interesting hub. Acutally I think marriage is something so fundamental that it is nearly impossible to give any one-fits-all advice. I got married the first time with 32, and that would normally have been a great age to have kids. But when I married, I had just started working after my study time, so getting pregnant was really not high on the list of my priorities then. Additionally, we both lived hundreds of miles from our families, which makes having a family of your own incredibly difficult.
On the other hand, those who had their kids really early, like sometimes even while they still were in school, were happy with them and had tons of help.
Fact is that it is very difficult, especially for well educated women to get a career and kids under the same umbrella. No matter what the few women who managed it say, it is difficult and it destroys many avenues for you. And yes, that might be worth it, but it would also be worth to think and find out if there could not be better ways to handle that. I really think it is a shame that from 18 women in my department only 6 have kids of their own and 4 of those were in lower positions to begin with. Most of the men have kids, though...
I think, your thirties are a good age to get married. You're not too young or too old. Everyone waits, now. But if you want to have a kid. Then, you better get crack'in.
soyelude 4 years ago
Great advice Terrymill. I got married in my mid-thirties and yet I felt I should have waited till I was probably forty. When the kids start to arrive...you're actually TIED-DOWN.....phew!!! Great hub.